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World of Possibilities: Michael Ojo
01:47

World of Possibilities: Michael Ojo

The biggest lesson, to keep it brief, is life is extremely short and you want to take the time to enjoy as much of it as possible. You want to also take the time to remind yourself to enjoy everything you do and it should be with pleasure. It's not going to be with ease. There's always going to be challenges, but if you find what you love to do in every day, continue to do it. I think when we're younger, we don't have the responsibilities of paying bills or having to make money per se. We just like to wake up and play video games or do sports or hang out with friends or go to the movies or the mall. Those are the simple pleasures of life. As we get older, we now have responsibilities, so we now have to push away some of those pleasures when we're younger. And also those pleasures change as we get older, but in our lives, we should always make sure that whatever we're doing, we enjoy doing it. There's a saying that says, if you enjoy what you do, you never work a day in your life. I didn't know what that meant because I've had many a jobs where I've worked many days in my life, but now that I became an entrepreneur and I am chasing my goals and my dreams to do what I want to do every day when I wake up, I feel like I haven't worked a day and I enjoy it. And some days are tougher than others, but as long as you have pleasure and you really enjoy what you're doing, and you take the notion that life is short and that you have to enjoy the time that you have today because we don't know if we're promised tomorrow, you'll really do the most and have the most fun and enjoy life.
Challenging Situations
Uncertainty: LeAnn Elder
02:04

Uncertainty: LeAnn Elder

I think you have to expect uncertainty. You have to understand that it is coming. No one has all the answers and there you will be thrown curve balls and you have to be okay with the potential outcomes and prepare for them. But you have to; uncertainty is very difficult for a lot of people. Certainty is one of those basic human needs that drives a lot of people. When they feel like they don't have it, that's where you can get out of control and be very anxious and you can allow yourself to succumb in a very negative way. If you don't learn how to handle the fact that uncertainty is just a part of life, I do believe you have to have a lot of faith, right? You have to have a lot of faith that, in the end, it won't always be like this. In the end, this is fixable. In the end, I can rise above the difficulties that are in front of me and sometimes you don't know how you're going to get through it, and you are very uncertain about the future. And it does make you nervous in your approach in dealing with life. But you really don't have a choice. Like you can't, you're never going to get. But so far in life, if you think you're going to be confident and certain and secure about everything going on around you - it doesn't work that way. So, I can't look to have constant certainty in my life. I can only develop, make sure I work on myself from within, so that I'm strong enough to face the uncertainty and figure out what I can do to either fix it or deal with it and adjust my own mindset about it.
Uncertainty: Michael Ojo
01:56

Uncertainty: Michael Ojo

Yeah, uncertainty is tough. One thing I learned from therapy in the first couple of sessions was you can only control what you can control. And we all need to realize that there's certain things we cannot control. If we are having a bad day and maybe we want to go for a walk, but it's raining outside, it's torrential downpour, we can't control turning the rain off so there's no use of being aggravated about it. But what we can do is we can find somewhere quiet to sit down and just realize that I am in a very stressful state of mind. Let me find some peace and do something that will make me positive and happy and something that will make me progressive. That's really what you can control. So you just try to work on yourself in ways you can. I think the best way to do that is just kind of really understand who you are. (28:32): That takes time, but when you really know who you are, you believe in yourself. Again, it goes to confidence. Even during these uncertain times, you'll prevail. You'll get yourself out of it. And I've been there and even recently I've been there. And when I think about those times, I think about times where I've been there previously and I'm like, oh, well, I remember that time where I felt this same way, but guess what? That was a year ago and I got out of that situation. I'm in a better place today. So now that I feel like I'm in another uncertain situation, I've got to remember that if I keep on being positive and proactive, I can get out of this situation and in months, days, years from now, I'll be in a better place. So it's positivity, positive reinforcement in the mindset.(29:26): So this isn't confession, but maybe it's always been, Kim kind of suggested this to me. If you could say one thing that you've made a mistake on, I'm not trying to make it say you did that you not regret, but you may have done over and then what you learned from it because life is up and down or it could be something where you were down, something happened and then you kind of recovered from it.
Belonging: Vaughn Crowe
02:37

Belonging: Vaughn Crowe

You will go through life in moments. In moments where you will feel like an outsider. You will feel like you're the only one in the room with short hair or no hair. You may be the only black person in the room. And the reality is the level of confidence necessary to even take the first step to be in that room, you should acknowledge you’re a winner because that is somewhat of the first step in being comfortable and having folks gravitate to you. There is this concept, that I fully embrace right now, that we'll see if it works, but I want to be the uncommon amongst the uncommon. And that comes with recognizing that, hey, I'm different but I'm stronger because I am different. And the more people in the room who don't look like me, who don't talk like me, who don't have the same haircut as I do, it only emboldens me to go out and continue to compete, to strive to be excellent. Because ultimately the work that I produce, the product that I generate, they will all gravitate to excellence and so long that I am striving to be excellent. I might be alone for a moment. I might be uncomfortable, but as I produce, the world will gravitate to me. And that's somewhat of the mindset that's confident, not necessarily arrogant, not gloating, but it's this idea that because I am different, I am great, I desire to be uncommon amongst the uncommon, that's where I thrive. So, if you can find the courage to embrace that, I walk into many rooms where I am the only person who's black. And then you couple that with being from Newark, you're like, this is a double whammy. But you know what? I embrace it and you will come to me and you'll learn how good I am, how great I am. You'll also learn how great we can be together. That's what I would encourage when you're thinking about how do I fit in, how do I become more comfortable? I would figure out how to remain uncommon amongst the uncommon.
Healthy Relationships
Healthy Relationships: Vaughn Crowe
02:11

Healthy Relationships: Vaughn Crowe

I grew up in what I would call an ecosystem of love. And it wasn't a world where I was constantly told that I was less than others. It wasn't a world that I was constantly, psychologically tortured. I was reminded on a regular basis of how great I am and how much better I could become. And so those all were relationships and mentors and professionals and people who poured into me. And because of that experience, despite the challenges in the world that we experience, I fundamentally believe that the human species is good. And so therefore over these years, and it remains part of who I am, this thirst to learn more about people and to be in the presence of people, to ultimately develop relationships with no outcome necessarily tied to building a relationship. But because I fundamentally believe that people are good, the human species is good, I hope that I have an expectation that my fellow humans would think the same of me. Therefore, we can live not necessarily in harmony, but we can live in acceptance together, with a level of respect and dignity, so long that we are moving towards something that's positive. And so therefore, relationships for me is part of the reason why I do what I do. It’s part of the reason why I have a handful of really close friends and I value them. I would encourage young people to utilize the power of relationships to learn to advance relationships and also to help you avoid failure. It also helps. They help you embrace failure. So they're important.
Life Lessons Kindness: Kim Singleton
01:44

Life Lessons Kindness: Kim Singleton

I think the most important thing life has taught me is to be kind to people. I find that there's this covenant that we sing in church that be slow to take offense. I think a lot of the conflicts that we have with people, I think 90% of the time it's because we misunderstand what they're saying or we don't understand what they're going through. And any act of aggression, sometimes it's not about us. It may be about what they're going through. So always try to be kind to people and give people the benefit of the doubt. Now, there are that 10% who are mean and nasty, and you have to deal with them according to your personality. But the people that I've come across for the most part have been nice people. And I do try to give them the benefit of the doubt. And I try to be kind to people even in situations when they weren't kind to me. But that's my personality. But I can't say that me being kind to people has created opportunities for me later on. You heard the term, don't burn your bridges. I didn't burn my bridges and the opportunities came back to me. It doesn't mean that you let somebody walk over you or disrespect you. You can handle it in a way that's appropriate, but for the most part, everybody's just trying to get along like everybody else. So why not be kind to each other? And kindness is contagious. So that's why I love doing it. I love saying hello to someone or saying something or doing something to someone that makes them feel good. That makes me feel good. So, it's just very contagious. So that's what I learned in life. Just enjoy each other when we can.
Belonging: Vaughn Crowe
02:37

Belonging: Vaughn Crowe

You will go through life in moments. In moments where you will feel like an outsider. You will feel like you're the only one in the room with short hair or no hair. You may be the only black person in the room. And the reality is the level of confidence necessary to even take the first step to be in that room, you should acknowledge you’re a winner because that is somewhat of the first step in being comfortable and having folks gravitate to you. There is this concept, that I fully embrace right now, that we'll see if it works, but I want to be the uncommon amongst the uncommon. And that comes with recognizing that, hey, I'm different but I'm stronger because I am different. And the more people in the room who don't look like me, who don't talk like me, who don't have the same haircut as I do, it only emboldens me to go out and continue to compete, to strive to be excellent. Because ultimately the work that I produce, the product that I generate, they will all gravitate to excellence and so long that I am striving to be excellent. I might be alone for a moment. I might be uncomfortable, but as I produce, the world will gravitate to me. And that's somewhat of the mindset that's confident, not necessarily arrogant, not gloating, but it's this idea that because I am different, I am great, I desire to be uncommon amongst the uncommon, that's where I thrive. So, if you can find the courage to embrace that, I walk into many rooms where I am the only person who's black. And then you couple that with being from Newark, you're like, this is a double whammy. But you know what? I embrace it and you will come to me and you'll learn how good I am, how great I am. You'll also learn how great we can be together. That's what I would encourage when you're thinking about how do I fit in, how do I become more comfortable? I would figure out how to remain uncommon amongst the uncommon.
Advice to Teenage Self: Vaughn Crowe
02:17

Advice to Teenage Self: Vaughn Crowe

I recently learned this in my adult life such that it is so applicable to what I experienced as a young person in high school. And there were three elements that I recently learned from a very successful business person, and it was know your craft and know it well. So whatever it is that you think you're good at, lean in to that experience. If you're a math student and you love algebra and you're not as good at English, maybe lean in to being a great math student. So know your craft and know it well. Be humble. So as you are excelling in various tasks, if you are the best math student, there's no need to gloat and tell the world that you're great. Let your work speak for yourself, and that's a form of being humble. And then the third component of that life lesson is to make friends. And making friends is about building relationships, accepting people for who they are and what they are. And so, if you kind of go through life, and this is something that I've learned over the last five years from a really good friend of mine, which is to know your craft and know it well. So you study and you attempt to excel at everything that you do. And secondly, be humble because you will make mistakes. But going through life with a level of humility gets you close to kind of a higher form of life. And then lastly, make friends. We cannot survive as a human species without having a companion, a friend, a partner in some form. And so, those life lessons that I've learned in my life more recently are more apparent than ever. When I think about my childhood as a student at Weequahic High School as a student at Hawthorne Avenue Elementary School and even as a student at Colgate, those are three things that had I learned earlier would've been an added bonus to my life as I began to progress in my career.
Belonging: Eric Pennington
03:06

Belonging: Eric Pennington

Belonging is a bit of an elusive concept sometimes. A lot of your ability to belong is based on where you've been in your life. And if you come from an environment that is different than mainstream America, it's kind of tough immediately to feel like you belong. You have to feel like you have to prove yourself almost every day. I'll go back to another experience in my life where I didn't feel like I belonged, and I think I may have made at that time the wrong choice, but it turned out to be another one of the experiences in life that helps you do better. As a senior in high school, I was invited to meet with the dean of Yale to see whether or not they would accept me and admit me into the school. It turns out that I was going to be admitted to the school and was invited up for a final visit to spend the night with some students at Yale, and then the next day to meet with the Dean and essentially sign an acceptance letter to go. Well, I went to Yale and they paid for my bus ticket. I went there. I got into New Haven, got off the bus and walked to the campus. And when I got to the campus, the area around the campus was very similar to my environment here in Essex County, it was very urban. There were stores on the corner, bodegas similar to what we had here, but then when I reached the campus and there were literally these ivy walls and these big gates with these big stone structures. And I walked through that gate and immediately felt like I did not belong. I did stay overnight and the next morning I got up and I did not go to the Dean's office. I went back home because I felt so out of place and so much like I could never belong in a place like that. That was one of the times where I deselected. And at that moment I thought that was the best thing for me to do. I have learned since that that was probably not the best idea in the world. They wrote me later to find out what happened and to see if I wanted to come back, and I did not.
Body and Mind
One Body One Mind: Michael Ojo
03:29

One Body One Mind: Michael Ojo

When I was younger I didn't do that I realized I do now. I probably should have done more of this when I was younger, a lot of my elders told me this was the way to live and I didn't want to listen. Two things, one with the body, is how you eat. I was always an active kid. So that's one of the things that for the body is very good. Moving around, getting active. Now, people have wearables where they can track their steps and track how much they're moving a day. It's important to do that. As a kid, we'd run around, bicycle, swim, play basketball, football, and have races. So the activeness of keeping your body moving is key. And especially, if can, if you're fortunate enough to have the mobility, if all the functions are working in your body, it's a blessing in itself and you should utilize that as much as possible. But what I ate, I loved all of the junk food you can imagine, all the chips, soda, fast food, pizza. Pizza Hut was one of my favorites as well as Chuck E Cheese Pizza. Things that are considered processed foods. And now, because I do take a lot more care of myself as I age, I realize that processed food was not good and conducive to a good, healthy lifestyle. So I reduced it to almost none now. But if I would've, I think I should have done everything in moderation. So, if you do want to enjoy the food, of course it's great, it tastes great, but it's not nutritionally great for us, so it should be done in moderation. That's for the body. And then the body links to the mind. We're all interconnected in that way. So, when you're eating processed food, it affects the way you think. It affects the way you act. Of course, it affects the way you move. So you want to be mindful of those things, try to eat more healthy and whole as they say, things that come from the earth that haven't been ridden with chemicals or other kind of manipulation. And then with the mind, reading is key. My parents always try to get me to read as much as possible. I hated to do it then. I love to read now and it's almost like because I'm busy with work and other things, I can't find enough time to read. And I have books just piled up that I can't wait to just sit somewhere quietly for hours and read. And I think with time I got more interested in books, but the key for me was to find books that caught my interest. And it could be whatever you like to read. For me it's biographies and business books. But if you like nonfiction, sci-fi action books, just find and do the research to find a book that you like. It could be 20, 30, 40, 50 pages. It could be a hundred, 200, 300 pages, but start to get there because reading really stimulates the mind in a great way and it really connects the mindfulness and the body connection and really makes you feel good.
Mind and Body: Vaughn Crowe
02:15

Mind and Body: Vaughn Crowe

So, I am the son of Vernon and Darris Crowe and grew up in a very religious family where there was often the adage of your body is your temple and what you put in it is very important. And as you go through life, we kind of lose the idea that what you pour into your mind, what you pour into your gut, is significant. But the research is that what you pour into your mind, resting your mind, taking care of your body, eating healthy as best you can, it's hard nowadays, but eating as best you can, the output from that will lead to higher performance. So here I am 42 years old, I've had three knee surgeries, back surgery, my body has taken a toll. And what I've learned again over the years is that the mind and body are very much connected. So I do meditate and in the form of meditation. It's just sitting quietly and acknowledging my thoughts, nothing more, nothing less. Sit quiet, young people, and just let the thoughts come. And then here I am training for the Chicago Marathon. When everyone's told me, oh, Vaughn, you're too old. You've had too many surgeries, you've broken too many bones. And if you take care of the body and you push yourself, what you realize is that you control your outcomes to a degree. So I've been eating healthier, reducing the junk food, and the chips, et cetera. And by the time I arrive at this marathon, I'm overweight, challenged physically because I've adequately trained both my mind and my body. I have a bridling confidence that I will run 26.2 miles. It'll probably be my last one, but it'll be one of the biggest physical and mental accomplishments that I've achieved in my life. And that includes having played division one football.
Financial Literacy
Money: Kim Singleton
01:44

Money: Kim Singleton

I think it's never too early to have budgets. There's an old saying, when I was coming up, pay yourself first. So whatever job you had, you would always take out some money and put it aside for you first, and then you either use it as discretionary funds or paid your bills, et cetera. But I think it's important, and it all kind of ties into being intentional about what you want to accomplish. You may want to buy a house, you may want to get a higher education, you may want to invest. There's a lot of things that you want to do, but it's not going to come automatically. Everything takes planning and it's never too early to budget. And if you don't have a lot of money, think of the saying that I said before, pay yourself first You may get $10, so you take a dollar, you put it aside. If you did that every day for a year, that's $365. You could take that and put it someplace else, but if you just pay yourself first as you go on, then you'll have money as a young person and you can take this concept and when you get a job, make sure, see what kind of retirement plans your company has, such as a 401k. I know so many people who are retiring because they got into their company investment plan or 401k and just kept pushing everything into it and it would come out of their paycheck. They didn't even miss it. And then it was time to retire. They turned around and looked and they had all this money. So budgeting is always good, but make sure you pay yourself first. You take a piece of that, you put it to the side, and then you decide how you want to invest that because you'll have it.
Creating Wealth: Vaughn Crowe
02:41

Creating Wealth: Vaughn Crowe

I grew up in Newark, New Jersey. In the south section of the city on a small street called Clinton Place in Hawthorne Avenue. And at 16, maybe 17 years old, my father got diagnosed with kidney failure and he was the primary breadwinner, as my mom spent a good chunk of her life raising her or their six children. And that was my first brush with poverty as I knew it. Up until then, we lived a good life. I had food, I had clothes, et cetera. But then the income stopped once he was diagnosed. And that was a turning point for me to recognize that there has to be a differentiated way for me to create economic opportunity for myself and for my family in the long run. And that took me down a path of being curious, not a woe is me story, not a, oh my God, look at this kid. (00:20:49): It just took me down the path of being curious around how wealth was created in this country. And so I became curious about Wall Street, about medicine, about law, and what I realized is that I really liked business. I was good at math, I was good at numbers then. And this idea of putting $1 in to something and figuring out how to extract five, it's the very basic tenant of business. There's a lot of jargon and language around business, but the reality is in our old neighborhood, we would say, how do you make a dollar out of 15 cents? So, there is this notion of how do you make a dollar out of 15 cents? And that's just the basic tenant of business. And once I realized that there was opportunity for me to learn how to extract value, whether it's investing a dollar or getting a return on my labor, that encouraged me to go down the path to figure out how to become a successful business person. And it stemmed from this idea that the money dried up in my home at 16 or 17 years old. Things got better. But that was the flip of the switch in the room for me that said, I need to become more curious about ways in which I can create real wealth for myself and my family.
Power of Investing: Vaughn Crowe
02:18

Power of Investing: Vaughn Crowe

I was a sophomore in high school at Weequahic High School in Newark, New Jersey. And I had this history teacher; his name was Professor Strom. Mr. Strom. And it was a history class, American history, but we would start every class with a lesson around the markets, particularly the stock market. And at that time we were learning about IBM and Coca-Cola. What drives value? The stock price is here today. The stock price is there tomorrow. And if you had some money, what companies would you invest in? Who has a great brand, who has a great product? Can you afford the stock? And if I was a bit more aggressive, a bit more entrepreneurial, as I think you each have the capabilities to be, I was working summer jobs, I had extra cash in my pocket and I would spend it on clothes and shoes and all the trappings, all the things that you would normally do as a 16-year-old. But I should have taken from Mr. Strom, my history teacher, and I should have applied some of my earnings from my summer job and tested what he was teaching by opening an account and putting some money in the market, watching it grow, watching it come down because in that would've been life lessons for me to understand how money works, how equity builds. But it was a great lesson that Mr. Strom taught us, my first introduction to Wall Street technically, but I wish at 16 I had taken some of those summer camp paychecks and put a hundred dollars, $50, into the market. If I were to compound that, it'd probably be worth a lot more today. But I'll let you figure that out for me. Had I put $500 in the market in 1996, what would it be worth today? (00:43:45): Path to Success(00:45:37): I was an average student with an above average work ethic. I was an okay reader, but I understood how to read. I was a good student, but I was not Einstein. But I would never let a person outwork me. And it sounds simple because oftentimes you look at the person who's made it and you think that that person is brilliant. You think that there was some secret sauce. I'm telling you, the reality is I just worked at it. I invested in myself. I was curious, wasn't afraid to fail. When I failed, yeah, I cried. I was angry, I was upset, but I got back up, looked myself in the mirror and tried to go through my high school days ferociously aggressive with the tenacity to compete and win. And that's not rocket science, that's just finding within yourself kind of a will to win. You've made your mind up that you're not going to quit. We go through life as a young person without completing tasks. And I think it's important that you complete tasks. It's fulfilling, it's gratifying. If you just worked at it and you complete the task, you might fail. If you do it again, you might win. What did you learn? Complete the task. And that's probably one of the things that I didn't do enough of when I was 17 years old. But what I'm telling you today is not rocket science. I wasn't a straight A student. I didn't do great on the SATs, but you will not outwork me and I will complete the task. And I think that if you work hard, you identify the problem, you identify the challenge, and you go from A to Z and just focus on completing the task, your outcomes will be more positive than not.
LeAnn Elder
Selecting Friends: LeAnn Elder
02:43

Selecting Friends: LeAnn Elder

Choosing your friends is very, very important. And you don't have to have a lot of them. You don't, it's not about running in a big posse and big groups because all those people are not your friends. They just aren't . If you could go through and have one or two people that truly have your back, that are truly happy for you, people who can tell you what you need to hear, not just what you want to hear, because you're not going to get everything right. You're going to make mistakes. You're going to make poor choices. And a true friend is going to tell you, you're making poor choices. As a true friend is not going to sit back and watch you make poor choices and watch you fail. They're going to say, no, you need to keep your head up. You need to do this. You need to do things differently. That's a true friend. And when you find people like that, you need to hold on to them. Choosing friends that model where you should be. Because even if you aren't that person, but you surround yourself by people who are. So, if you want to be a good student, even if you're not a good student, choose friends who are . Choose ones that are spending their time wisely and that are studying and putting forth that effort because they're going to be a better influence on you than the ones who are just going to encourage you to go out and drink or smoke or do other things - party on the weekends who aren't going to put any emphasis on school. So that becomes very, very important because it's very easy for kids to fall to the lowest common denominator. It's very, very easy. And, and it's one of the reasons why it's unfortunate, when you get stuck., I can speak as a mom, even I know that my boys have fallen into that trap many times, especially my youngest son because yes, he is social and you know, he wants to have fun and you know, you want to be liked and all of those other things. But if I put him in a class with people with behavior issues, he was going to fall into the behavior issues category too. He would sink to the least common denominator. But as long as I kept him in honors and AP classes and students that had a certain standard, he was going to rise to the occasion, he was going to do everything he could to be on that level, because of course, he's not going to want to be the only one that isn't doing what he's supposed to do. It's important to surround yourself with what you want for yourself, even if that is not where you are.
Uncertainty: LeAnn Elder
02:04

Uncertainty: LeAnn Elder

I think you have to expect uncertainty. You have to understand that it is coming. No one has all the answers and there you will be thrown curve balls and you have to be okay with the potential outcomes and prepare for them. But you have to; uncertainty is very difficult for a lot of people. Certainty is one of those basic human needs that drives a lot of people. When they feel like they don't have it, that's where you can get out of control and be very anxious and you can allow yourself to succumb in a very negative way. If you don't learn how to handle the fact that uncertainty is just a part of life, I do believe you have to have a lot of faith, right? You have to have a lot of faith that, in the end, it won't always be like this. In the end, this is fixable. In the end, I can rise above the difficulties that are in front of me and sometimes you don't know how you're going to get through it, and you are very uncertain about the future. And it does make you nervous in your approach in dealing with life. But you really don't have a choice. Like you can't, you're never going to get. But so far in life, if you think you're going to be confident and certain and secure about everything going on around you - it doesn't work that way. So, I can't look to have constant certainty in my life. I can only develop, make sure I work on myself from within, so that I'm strong enough to face the uncertainty and figure out what I can do to either fix it or deal with it and adjust my own mindset about it.
Eric Pennington
Belonging: Eric Pennington
03:06

Belonging: Eric Pennington

Belonging is a bit of an elusive concept sometimes. A lot of your ability to belong is based on where you've been in your life. And if you come from an environment that is different than mainstream America, it's kind of tough immediately to feel like you belong. You have to feel like you have to prove yourself almost every day. I'll go back to another experience in my life where I didn't feel like I belonged, and I think I may have made at that time the wrong choice, but it turned out to be another one of the experiences in life that helps you do better. As a senior in high school, I was invited to meet with the dean of Yale to see whether or not they would accept me and admit me into the school. It turns out that I was going to be admitted to the school and was invited up for a final visit to spend the night with some students at Yale, and then the next day to meet with the Dean and essentially sign an acceptance letter to go. Well, I went to Yale and they paid for my bus ticket. I went there. I got into New Haven, got off the bus and walked to the campus. And when I got to the campus, the area around the campus was very similar to my environment here in Essex County, it was very urban. There were stores on the corner, bodegas similar to what we had here, but then when I reached the campus and there were literally these ivy walls and these big gates with these big stone structures. And I walked through that gate and immediately felt like I did not belong. I did stay overnight and the next morning I got up and I did not go to the Dean's office. I went back home because I felt so out of place and so much like I could never belong in a place like that. That was one of the times where I deselected. And at that moment I thought that was the best thing for me to do. I have learned since that that was probably not the best idea in the world. They wrote me later to find out what happened and to see if I wanted to come back, and I did not.
Healthy Relationships: Vaughn Crowe
02:11

Healthy Relationships: Vaughn Crowe

I grew up in what I would call an ecosystem of love. And it wasn't a world where I was constantly told that I was less than others. It wasn't a world that I was constantly, psychologically tortured. I was reminded on a regular basis of how great I am and how much better I could become. And so those all were relationships and mentors and professionals and people who poured into me. And because of that experience, despite the challenges in the world that we experience, I fundamentally believe that the human species is good. And so therefore over these years, and it remains part of who I am, this thirst to learn more about people and to be in the presence of people, to ultimately develop relationships with no outcome necessarily tied to building a relationship. But because I fundamentally believe that people are good, the human species is good, I hope that I have an expectation that my fellow humans would think the same of me. Therefore, we can live not necessarily in harmony, but we can live in acceptance together, with a level of respect and dignity, so long that we are moving towards something that's positive. And so therefore, relationships for me is part of the reason why I do what I do. It’s part of the reason why I have a handful of really close friends and I value them. I would encourage young people to utilize the power of relationships to learn to advance relationships and also to help you avoid failure. It also helps. They help you embrace failure. So they're important.
Creating Wealth: Vaughn Crowe
02:41

Creating Wealth: Vaughn Crowe

I grew up in Newark, New Jersey. In the south section of the city on a small street called Clinton Place in Hawthorne Avenue. And at 16, maybe 17 years old, my father got diagnosed with kidney failure and he was the primary breadwinner, as my mom spent a good chunk of her life raising her or their six children. And that was my first brush with poverty as I knew it. Up until then, we lived a good life. I had food, I had clothes, et cetera. But then the income stopped once he was diagnosed. And that was a turning point for me to recognize that there has to be a differentiated way for me to create economic opportunity for myself and for my family in the long run. And that took me down a path of being curious, not a woe is me story, not a, oh my God, look at this kid. (00:20:49): It just took me down the path of being curious around how wealth was created in this country. And so I became curious about Wall Street, about medicine, about law, and what I realized is that I really liked business. I was good at math, I was good at numbers then. And this idea of putting $1 in to something and figuring out how to extract five, it's the very basic tenant of business. There's a lot of jargon and language around business, but the reality is in our old neighborhood, we would say, how do you make a dollar out of 15 cents? So, there is this notion of how do you make a dollar out of 15 cents? And that's just the basic tenant of business. And once I realized that there was opportunity for me to learn how to extract value, whether it's investing a dollar or getting a return on my labor, that encouraged me to go down the path to figure out how to become a successful business person. And it stemmed from this idea that the money dried up in my home at 16 or 17 years old. Things got better. But that was the flip of the switch in the room for me that said, I need to become more curious about ways in which I can create real wealth for myself and my family.
Mind and Body: Vaughn Crowe
02:15

Mind and Body: Vaughn Crowe

So, I am the son of Vernon and Darris Crowe and grew up in a very religious family where there was often the adage of your body is your temple and what you put in it is very important. And as you go through life, we kind of lose the idea that what you pour into your mind, what you pour into your gut, is significant. But the research is that what you pour into your mind, resting your mind, taking care of your body, eating healthy as best you can, it's hard nowadays, but eating as best you can, the output from that will lead to higher performance. So here I am 42 years old, I've had three knee surgeries, back surgery, my body has taken a toll. And what I've learned again over the years is that the mind and body are very much connected. So I do meditate and in the form of meditation. It's just sitting quietly and acknowledging my thoughts, nothing more, nothing less. Sit quiet, young people, and just let the thoughts come. And then here I am training for the Chicago Marathon. When everyone's told me, oh, Vaughn, you're too old. You've had too many surgeries, you've broken too many bones. And if you take care of the body and you push yourself, what you realize is that you control your outcomes to a degree. So I've been eating healthier, reducing the junk food, and the chips, et cetera. And by the time I arrive at this marathon, I'm overweight, challenged physically because I've adequately trained both my mind and my body. I have a bridling confidence that I will run 26.2 miles. It'll probably be my last one, but it'll be one of the biggest physical and mental accomplishments that I've achieved in my life. And that includes having played division one football.
Defining Moments: Vaughn Crowe
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Defining Moments: Vaughn Crowe

Life is not always certain. And we talked about that before and you're learning that as a young person. In 2006 I met a gentleman by the name of Ray Chambers, a notable businessman and philanthropist from my home city who learned that I had a desire to advance my career, beyond where I was at that point in time, and unknowing what my skills were, unknowing what value I would bring, and I was not knowledgeable about the world in which he really worked in. He said, Vaughn, come work for me and do it for a year. And my question to Ray was, well, what will I do? And the response was, I don't know, but you have some skills that I think we could use. And almost on the spot I left what was a really good career to go and utilize some skills that someone could use. And I took a little bit of risk and that was a defining moment for me because that one-year opportunity turned into 15, which then led me to run a venture capital firm and have established relationships with some of the greatest men and women on earth. And that was done over a peppermint tea in New York City almost 17 years ago. So from a career point of view, I talk about knowing your craft and know it well. Be humble and make friends. In that case, I made a friend who took a risk on me and I embraced the challenge. And again, the story of my life as a business person, as a community professional, is not over yet. Hopefully I'm just getting started. But, so far, that was what you call a breakpoint. That was a really important moment in my life and I'll keep you posted on how it turns out.
Advice to Teenage Self: Vaughn Crowe
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Advice to Teenage Self: Vaughn Crowe

I recently learned this in my adult life such that it is so applicable to what I experienced as a young person in high school. And there were three elements that I recently learned from a very successful business person, and it was know your craft and know it well. So whatever it is that you think you're good at, lean in to that experience. If you're a math student and you love algebra and you're not as good at English, maybe lean in to being a great math student. So know your craft and know it well. Be humble. So as you are excelling in various tasks, if you are the best math student, there's no need to gloat and tell the world that you're great. Let your work speak for yourself, and that's a form of being humble. And then the third component of that life lesson is to make friends. And making friends is about building relationships, accepting people for who they are and what they are. And so, if you kind of go through life, and this is something that I've learned over the last five years from a really good friend of mine, which is to know your craft and know it well. So you study and you attempt to excel at everything that you do. And secondly, be humble because you will make mistakes. But going through life with a level of humility gets you close to kind of a higher form of life. And then lastly, make friends. We cannot survive as a human species without having a companion, a friend, a partner in some form. And so, those life lessons that I've learned in my life more recently are more apparent than ever. When I think about my childhood as a student at Weequahic High School as a student at Hawthorne Avenue Elementary School and even as a student at Colgate, those are three things that had I learned earlier would've been an added bonus to my life as I began to progress in my career.
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Michael Ojo Seires
World of Possibilities: Michael Ojo
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World of Possibilities: Michael Ojo

The biggest lesson, to keep it brief, is life is extremely short and you want to take the time to enjoy as much of it as possible. You want to also take the time to remind yourself to enjoy everything you do and it should be with pleasure. It's not going to be with ease. There's always going to be challenges, but if you find what you love to do in every day, continue to do it. I think when we're younger, we don't have the responsibilities of paying bills or having to make money per se. We just like to wake up and play video games or do sports or hang out with friends or go to the movies or the mall. Those are the simple pleasures of life. As we get older, we now have responsibilities, so we now have to push away some of those pleasures when we're younger. And also those pleasures change as we get older, but in our lives, we should always make sure that whatever we're doing, we enjoy doing it. There's a saying that says, if you enjoy what you do, you never work a day in your life. I didn't know what that meant because I've had many a jobs where I've worked many days in my life, but now that I became an entrepreneur and I am chasing my goals and my dreams to do what I want to do every day when I wake up, I feel like I haven't worked a day and I enjoy it. And some days are tougher than others, but as long as you have pleasure and you really enjoy what you're doing, and you take the notion that life is short and that you have to enjoy the time that you have today because we don't know if we're promised tomorrow, you'll really do the most and have the most fun and enjoy life.
One Body One Mind: Michael Ojo
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One Body One Mind: Michael Ojo

When I was younger I didn't do that I realized I do now. I probably should have done more of this when I was younger, a lot of my elders told me this was the way to live and I didn't want to listen. Two things, one with the body, is how you eat. I was always an active kid. So that's one of the things that for the body is very good. Moving around, getting active. Now, people have wearables where they can track their steps and track how much they're moving a day. It's important to do that. As a kid, we'd run around, bicycle, swim, play basketball, football, and have races. So the activeness of keeping your body moving is key. And especially, if can, if you're fortunate enough to have the mobility, if all the functions are working in your body, it's a blessing in itself and you should utilize that as much as possible. But what I ate, I loved all of the junk food you can imagine, all the chips, soda, fast food, pizza. Pizza Hut was one of my favorites as well as Chuck E Cheese Pizza. Things that are considered processed foods. And now, because I do take a lot more care of myself as I age, I realize that processed food was not good and conducive to a good, healthy lifestyle. So I reduced it to almost none now. But if I would've, I think I should have done everything in moderation. So, if you do want to enjoy the food, of course it's great, it tastes great, but it's not nutritionally great for us, so it should be done in moderation. That's for the body. And then the body links to the mind. We're all interconnected in that way. So, when you're eating processed food, it affects the way you think. It affects the way you act. Of course, it affects the way you move. So you want to be mindful of those things, try to eat more healthy and whole as they say, things that come from the earth that haven't been ridden with chemicals or other kind of manipulation. And then with the mind, reading is key. My parents always try to get me to read as much as possible. I hated to do it then. I love to read now and it's almost like because I'm busy with work and other things, I can't find enough time to read. And I have books just piled up that I can't wait to just sit somewhere quietly for hours and read. And I think with time I got more interested in books, but the key for me was to find books that caught my interest. And it could be whatever you like to read. For me it's biographies and business books. But if you like nonfiction, sci-fi action books, just find and do the research to find a book that you like. It could be 20, 30, 40, 50 pages. It could be a hundred, 200, 300 pages, but start to get there because reading really stimulates the mind in a great way and it really connects the mindfulness and the body connection and really makes you feel good.
Live Within Your Means: Michael Ojo
03:15

Live Within Your Means: Michael Ojo

I was always a person that lived below my means. And a lot of people will tell you, a lot of financial advisors will tell you, to live below your means. So that means that if you have a hundred dollars and you go to a restaurant or there's two restaurants and you get to pick which one you want to go to, and if you go to restaurant A, it'll cost you a hundred dollars, then that means that your hundred dollars will be depleted by the time you finish your meal. Or you can go to restaurant B and the meal will cost you $20. And that means that after you spend the $20, you now have $80. So that would be living below your means. Spending a hundred dollars at restaurant A would be living above your means. So most financial advisors will tell you to live somewhere in between or to be closer to B. You want to make sure you save money for a rainy day. So, when you're thinking about how you use and spend your money, you want to spend it very wisely. And there's also the word frugally. Meaning that if I have a hundred dollars it doesn't mean I need to spend a hundred dollars. We all have wants and needs, so maybe you want to go to restaurant A and you want to spend a hundred dollars, but our need is that we need to nourish ourself. So, if both restaurants will accomplish that, we don't need to spend the full hundred dollars. So, I think there's the importance of understanding that concept. I do live by the notion now that something that has changed in my life in the last couple of years, and it's kind of hard to look at it, but I have pushed myself because I invest a lot in myself and that I am motivated. I'm motivated that when I see something, I know that it's on this planet for me to enjoy. If I want to take a beautiful trip or if I want to buy something that it is expensive and is not necessarily a need, that if I know that I have the value to recreate the income or earn that income again, or make that money again, that I should push myself to attain the said product or service with the notion that I've already have a plan to make that money back that I spent. And I think that's a way to keep us pushing and motivated. And it works for some people very well, for me it has worked very well. For others it may not, but it is just aspirational. It just pushes you. And if you're pushing yourself to that limit and you can take that limit, then you should. But you have to know yourself. It's not for everybody. Otherwise it's always smart to be living within your means or below it.
Time Management: Michael Ojo
02:15

Time Management: Michael Ojo

We cannot replenish time. We can replenish money. So I've realized with life, and this took me a lot of time, is that one, if you do what you love, then you're already in the right direction of how to spend your time wisely. And if you do that as much as possible, then you really have a great life. But I would say the biggest component for me in understanding time and how to manage it is to really organize yourself and prioritize. Know what you want, with your life and your time, and be intentional about how you're using that. I'm still getting better at that today, and I think that's something we'll always work on as we continue to build and grow. And so, with that, I've started to use spreadsheets, calendars, and planners to really kind of utilize my time properly. And I'm trying to get more finite with every hour of my day, which is something of a new journey I'm embarking on now. Because I want to know if I have typically 16 to 18 hours of the day that I'm up, how am I using that 18 hours if I'm carving out eight hours of that day to spend it with family and friends? I want to be intentional to be there with family and friends during that eight hours. And if I'm spending another six hours focused on work or a deal that I'm doing, I want to hone in and just copy and focus on that time for work. So it's just being intentional and understanding the minutes, the seconds, the hours that you have and every day. And a great quote is we all have the same 24 hours. So, when we look at celebrities or people we deem as very successful and we're like, how did they get there? What was their trick? Well, I'll tell you this, they have the same time. We have to make those aspirations come to life. So, once we know how to utilize that time, as they've utilized it, we can get a lot done.
Belonging: Kim Singleton
01:47

Belonging: Kim Singleton

A lot of people don't know that I'm very shy and I always feel out of place when I go places because sometimes I don't know exactly what to say or exactly what to do. Do I sound smart enough or will they look at me funny? I've been in places where I'm the only person of color many times, but I find for me, you have to be confident in yourself. And I've learned that being true to who you are kind of gives everybody else a comfort level. You don't have to mold yourself to someone else, especially if you're a good person. Just be that good person and everybody has to go along with it. I think with part of the concept of belonging, people feel uncomfortable in certain situations. You have to ask yourself, why am I uncomfortable? I think once you identify why you're uncomfortable, then you can address the problem. I'll go into a room and I'll say, well, why am I uncomfortable? Because I'm the only person of color in the room? Why is that? Does that make you uncomfortable? So, I’ll make myself go talk to someone and then there's a commonality between me and that person. And so now I don't feel like I don't belong. You may think that everybody else knows something that you don't know, but you just take the attitude, I'm going to go in, I'm going to learn from these people. I'm going to ask questions. So, I think you need to identify why do you feel like you don't belong? Why do you feel like you're uncomfortable and address that particular issue, but more importantly, move forward because you're only going to get comfortable when you're more and more in that particular environment. Don't shy away from it.
Life Lessons Kindness: Kim Singleton
01:44

Life Lessons Kindness: Kim Singleton

I think the most important thing life has taught me is to be kind to people. I find that there's this covenant that we sing in church that be slow to take offense. I think a lot of the conflicts that we have with people, I think 90% of the time it's because we misunderstand what they're saying or we don't understand what they're going through. And any act of aggression, sometimes it's not about us. It may be about what they're going through. So always try to be kind to people and give people the benefit of the doubt. Now, there are that 10% who are mean and nasty, and you have to deal with them according to your personality. But the people that I've come across for the most part have been nice people. And I do try to give them the benefit of the doubt. And I try to be kind to people even in situations when they weren't kind to me. But that's my personality. But I can't say that me being kind to people has created opportunities for me later on. You heard the term, don't burn your bridges. I didn't burn my bridges and the opportunities came back to me. It doesn't mean that you let somebody walk over you or disrespect you. You can handle it in a way that's appropriate, but for the most part, everybody's just trying to get along like everybody else. So why not be kind to each other? And kindness is contagious. So that's why I love doing it. I love saying hello to someone or saying something or doing something to someone that makes them feel good. That makes me feel good. So, it's just very contagious. So that's what I learned in life. Just enjoy each other when we can.
Money: Kim Singleton
01:44

Money: Kim Singleton

I think it's never too early to have budgets. There's an old saying, when I was coming up, pay yourself first. So whatever job you had, you would always take out some money and put it aside for you first, and then you either use it as discretionary funds or paid your bills, et cetera. But I think it's important, and it all kind of ties into being intentional about what you want to accomplish. You may want to buy a house, you may want to get a higher education, you may want to invest. There's a lot of things that you want to do, but it's not going to come automatically. Everything takes planning and it's never too early to budget. And if you don't have a lot of money, think of the saying that I said before, pay yourself first You may get $10, so you take a dollar, you put it aside. If you did that every day for a year, that's $365. You could take that and put it someplace else, but if you just pay yourself first as you go on, then you'll have money as a young person and you can take this concept and when you get a job, make sure, see what kind of retirement plans your company has, such as a 401k. I know so many people who are retiring because they got into their company investment plan or 401k and just kept pushing everything into it and it would come out of their paycheck. They didn't even miss it. And then it was time to retire. They turned around and looked and they had all this money. So budgeting is always good, but make sure you pay yourself first. You take a piece of that, you put it to the side, and then you decide how you want to invest that because you'll have it.
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Jeffrey Robison
Black Faces in White Places: Professor Jeffrey Robinson
02:08

Black Faces in White Places: Professor Jeffrey Robinson

Let me just give you some context. We wrote a book that we wish somebody had written for us. We were college students who were in engineering programs where we were often the one black person or one of a few black people who were taking the class. We were at internships where there weren't a lot of people who looked like us. And then eventually when we started some businesses, there weren't very many people who were like us trying to do the kind of businesses that we were in. So we wrote a book that would help us if we were talking to our younger selves, to navigate that situation. And the answer is, there are lots of things you could do, but here's some key things where you need to seek the wisdom of others. And we're really big on finding mentors who can help you to navigate some of these situations. You need to think about how you're going to get out of your comfort zone because often that's the wall that prevents you from doing some interesting things. You need to think about how you're going to create a network of people who you can get information from and who can be supportive of the things that you're doing. So go about creating a diverse network, everybody shouldn't look like just like you in your network, but you can use that network to navigate. And the people who do that well, obviously they do better in their careers and in the things that they do. And I'll just add one more thought. We think that part of the key to being successful is that you don't just think about yourself, that you figure out ways to give back. Because sometimes when you get beyond yourself, that getting beyond yourself allows you to see things from different people's perspectives. And that's always incredibly valuable to people who want to be leaders.
Mind: ProfessorJeffrey Robinson
01:59

Mind: ProfessorJeffrey Robinson

Your brain's like a muscle. So, one of the things that you got to do is exercise that muscle. And the way that you exercise that muscle is you learn new things and you use those new things to learn newer things, so that it builds on one another. And you can't do that if you're only sort of feeding yourself the same mental diet. You got to be careful about what you feed yourself. So you got to be careful what you put in your mind too. If all of the things that you put into your mind or into your brain are your negative ideas, negative things that aren't going to amount to anything, then what else do you think your brain's going to be thinking about? It's going to be thinking about those negative things. Fill your brain with positive thoughts. Then your mind starts to work on those positive things. If you read a book that takes you to an imagination that maybe you hadn't thought about before or introduces you to new ideas or describes a history or perspective, that's not the one that you have, then that muscle gets used. And one of the challenges of our modern era is we often use the little screen of your phone as the way to escape and go and do things in other places. But before we had all of that, we had books. Books are still a wrap, but how many have you read lately? Where are you challenging yourself to think about these things? So, you want to develop your mind. You got to get beyond thinking about things that are the mundane and the things that are negative. You got to get beyond that. So yes, read books. Yes, listen to some different perspectives that empower you, not just things that take you down.
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